Lets make this simple....First thing, If you have a Mate that can lend a hand, Put him to turning the motor by hand with all the spark plugs removed to make turning it by hand easier. Get a compression gauge and screw it into #1 cylinder and facing the motor turn it clockwise until you start to see the needle on the compression gauge start to register compression meaning that you are on the stroke needed to set your distributor rotor. STOP when the needle starts to move and remove the gauge from the port...Now, Take a very long shafted phillips screw driver small enough in diameter to easily insert into the #1 cylinder until it touches the top of the piston and then you or your Mate SLOWLY continue rotating the engine while watching the screwdriver, When the screwdriver reaches the very top of the stroke and starts to drop back down STOP, Gently reverse the turn of the motor and get the screwdriver back to the top remove it,
Now your TDC marking groove on the crank and the big 0 on the timing gear cover should be matched up nicely...If not, You could have a timing gear/chain problem. Then line up the rotor in the distributor to number one on the cap, Alot of caps now come with numbers embossed on them, Then before inserting take a light looking down the hole the distributor is going, Make sure the slot of the oil pump is going to line up and accept the male end of the distributor. Once you feel good about that, The gear on the distributor should match up to the cam gear that turns it....But you might have to wiggle the rotor button back and forth just a smidge to get it to seat...With the end of the rotor button pointing directly at #1 contact in the distributor cap.....If you can't get to a compression gauge.. Just shove whichever finger fills up the cylinder port and when the motor hits on the compression stoke, You'll know
Hope it goes Tickety-Boo for you!!